The in-laws left this morning, and here is an update as promised.
It was overall pretty good... His mom and step-dad stayed in a house they rented, along with some family friends... Who turned out to be pretty fun to hang out with. Their sarcasm and humor was similar to mine, so we hit it off well...
There was one dramatic moment that kinda upset me. On Mother's Day, me, my brother, my husband took my mom out for dinner... Bravo! Love the food there. We also had creme brulee, yum yum! So we went back to my mom's house, and stayed there for a bit.
My husband's parents knew we wanted to see them that night, but they were at the wedding of my husband's step-cousin who I cannot stand! lol. So they stayed there all night, and I was kinda sad about it, because they knew we were waiting for them to see them. By the time they got home, it was too late, so me and my husband just drove back to our place...
Additionally, one of my so called friends, which I wouldn't even call her that because of our many fall outs, went to the wedding and claimed she didn't want to be there and that it was so boring she wanted to leave right after dinner... Yeah, she caught the bouquet. Not cool.
So Monday I was still a little distressed about it, and I was talking to my co-worker and she said I need to learn to let some stuff roll off my shoulder, especially things I can't control. And I know she's right.
I've thought about it many times and I know my flaws... and one of them is letting things get to me when they really shouldn't. I am not really someone who holds grudges, but I do take things quite personally sometimes when really, I should just ignore it and just move on with my daily life.
I think it was like that while I was living with my father too, even though it's a little more complicated when it comes to him. He was very physically and emotionally abusive as I was growing up, and he treated my mom like crap too. But whenever he got upset at me for no reason, or for something that he shouldn't be upset about (which was ALL the time), I let it affect me, blamed it on myself, and got depressed about it.
It probably stems from that.. I feel the need to please everyone, and the need to have control over most things. But in reality, no one can control EVERYTHING... Not even me. lol.
I'm going to give this weekend an "A", despite the tiny drama I let get to me. I think it taught me a lesson, a lesson I will most likely forget in a couple of weeks. lol
Onto other things, my birthday is coming up in 2 weeks and I'm super excited! Don't know yet what's planned for the day, but I know I won't be working. Well, hopefully, got to put my time off sheet in. Yeah, I'm also a procrastinator... another flaw!
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